CommunicationPrinciples Howyouseeyourselfcanmakeagreatdifferenceinhowyoucommunicate."Everyindividualexistsinacontinuallychangingworldofexperienceofwhichhe(orshe)isthecenter".Manycommunicationscholarsandsocialscientistsbelievethatpeopleareproductsofhowotherstreatthemandofthemessagesotherssendthem.Buteverydayweexperiencethecentralityofourselvesincommunication.Astudent.forinstance,maydescribeaconflictwithateacherasunfairtreatment:"Iknowmyteacherdoesn'tlikethefactthatIdon'tagreewithhisopinions.andthat'swhyhegavemesuchapoorgradeinthatclass."Theteachermightsaytheopposite.Eachpersonmaybelievethatheiscorrectandthattheotherperson'sviewiswrong.
Theconceptofserforiginatesincommunication.Throughverbalandnonverbalsymbols,achildlearnstoacceptrolesinresponsetotheexpectationsofothers.Youestablishself-image.Thesortofpersonyoubelieveyouare,byhowothersthinkofyou.Positive,negative,andneutralmessagesthatyoureceivefromothersallplayaroleindeterminingwhoyouare.Communicationitselfisprobablybestunderstoodasadialogueprocess.Ourunderstandingofcommunicationcomesfromourinteractionswithotherpeople.Inamoreobviousway.communicationinvolvesothersinthesensethatacompetentcommunicatorconsiderswhattheotherpersonneedsandexpectswhenselectingmessagestoshare.So,thecommunicationbeginswiththeself,asdefinedlargelybyothers,andinvolvesothers,asdefinedlargelybytheself.
CommunicationOccursalmosteveryminuteofyourlife.Ifyouarenotcommunicating withyourself(thinking,planning,reactingtotheworldaroundyou),youareobservingothersanddrawinginferencesfromtheirbehavior.Eveniftheotherpersondidnotintendamessageforyou.yougatherobservationsanddrawspecificconclusions.Apersonyawnsandyoubelievethatpersonisboredwithyourmessage.Asecondpersonlooksawayfromyouandyouconcludethatpersonisnotlisteningtoyou.Athirdpersonsmiles(perhapsbecauseofamemoryofajokeheheardrecently) andyoubelievethatheisattractedtoyou.Wearecontinuallypickingupmeaningsfromothers'behaviorsandweareconstantlyprovidingbehaviorsthath